Aston is getting into minor behavioral problems. I cannot list out all now because I am sad & upset & emotionally affected. We think of sending him to be corrected by child therapist but the reality is to have effective behavoir management used by therapist is to have a report from child psychologist. I cannot bear to have a record of my son seeing a child psychologist so we shelf the idea.
Then come the situation of struggle of changing school for him from a academic-based to Montessori-based.
He is active mean he need attention badly.
Being active, he will unknowingly hurt others with his big large actions so need constant reminders. He cannot be ignored and he will try to grab your attention in another different way.
He is naive so he remember and follow wrong things other had done before & decide to try it out one day & as a result being labelled as naughty. With his active character, how right you are right when you do the right things - ok we praise him, he is happy. You are terribly wrong when you are in the wrong - this is because people think immediately you are bad, active & naughty boy & worse case is wrongly wronged - who bother to guide you immediately had not mummy is the one who finds out the truth for you. When you are right, you like to be praised and you are recognised with your good school work like drawing a nice picture. He is totally wrong when he did a naive thing that he did not even know that it is wrong.
He is active so he needs to do things freely, he need big space to display his actions & thoughts freely. Outcome : he splash sand to his friends during sand play.
We sent him to attend one day emergency care at Montessori-based school yesterday. He told us he likes the school & agree to change.
Mummy is very confused and unhappy because I am not reluctant to let go the Abacus and Calligraphy class he is learning in his current school. Mummy is also concerned is Montessori-based school too relaxed on academics. Does their Montessori curriculum cover all learning aspects so that they are also as strong as academic-based school. Mummy do not want to change school in hurry manner. Mummy need someone to explain to me clearly...who can help ?
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Hihi. I don't really get the picture...But I like to share my 2cents' worth.
Aston is a boy, and 5yr old child afterall. I mean, how much does he know about "proper behaviour". We as parents, can only constantly remind them, guide them. Very lor-soh, but what to do?
You did not mention what wrongs he did except the sand splash. Maybe something trigger that action? You should find out more.
Good habits are cultivated over time. I'm still learning, and boy, it's tough and hair tearing for me! Sob sob..Okay, I agree girls are easier to manage.
Hey, kids should be active, especially boys. How about weekly outdoor activities for him? That way, he can exert all his energy, and something to look forward to.
Er, I do not agree with you that "being active means needing attention". You'll be worried if your child is not active. And who doesn't like attention and recognition? Perhaps try to get him to see that it is his responsibility, and not yours, to find "entertainment" for himself.
As for changing school, believe me, it will make not any difference. Why disrupt his final year anyway?
He likes drawings so get him to draw more often. That's one way of expressing emotions.
HTH.
Pris .. Aston sounds like JA. JA has very big actions .. he talks and plays with his hands all around him .. sometimes he also did some things which people will see as naughty actions.
I never think of sending JA to any child therapist or any doctor but I always do not stop reminding him and as a result I become really very lor soh.
I constantly live in fear that my son will hurt other little kids with all his big active actions. I think we can only just remind them and guide them all the time.
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