Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Beautiful Mood

At last !! Yeah we booked our Bangkok trip 4D3N from April 19 to April 22. We are going with 外婆,三姨,三姨丈,Keith, 小姨 & 小姨丈。 We will be celebrating your birthday & Keith's birthday there. Countdown 24 days & we will be there !

6 comments:

serena said...

Hi Apricot! Lucky you! Going for a trip with so many people. Wanted to say something about Aston. Could he be misbehaving because he feels insecure with the arrival of the twins? To demand more attention and affection from you, he fuss more? Perhaps you could have a word with him and ask him about his fears.

Apricot said...

Hi Serena,
Thanks for your concern on Aston. I think it's our fault. We often scold him more than last time when he is alone. Eg he press their heads when they are still like 3-4 mths old and he is still doing now,did not sit still to eat dinner, did not shower when we told him to. Basically he turn a deaf ear to whatever things we tell him. Me and his daddy are discussing almost every day when to help him and work on our parenting techiques on him.

khengyan said...

Does timeout work on him?

Apricot said...

Hi Ky,
Thanks for your concern too.
Timeout do not work few yrs back and we did not think of trying out this time. I cannot stand his hilarious cries and will normally want to use the cane to shut him up. We all feel he need soft approach and using hard ways on him will repel and make us even more raged. This is why I bought a number of character building books to read to him and have him read out & am monitoring if this method works. He is quite intelligent boy, he learn fast and no one really know if this method will really help. I will soon finish reading one parenting book and will also use the techniques on him.

khengyan said...

I don't have much problems discipline *yet*, but perhaps you shouldn't switch disciplinary technique too quickly? You've got to give time to see results. For Ben, my stern voice works and I hardly every have to resort to timeout. Some kids are smart; they do understand but they still choose to test the boundaries. I'm starting to ask open questions so that I can know how Ben internalize certain bad behaviour. This is difficult coz your kid interact with other kids and they'll wonder why the others can do something that his mummy ask him not to. And I never use the cane; I was never cane perhaps. My brother was and now he uses it. It's like panadol, once u start to rely on it, u use it more and more. Btw, timeout can be a soft approach. I'm using that on Keith who's more challenging than Ben. After the timeout, u got to follow-up with reinforcing on the behaviour that you want, rather than negating the bad behaviour that he was exhibiting; sometimes they don't know what we want, so keep telling them .... "this is what you should do", and drop the "no no no, don't do this", and ask them (open qn) what will happen if they continue to do that behaviour that u want to discipline on, get them to think ...

Apricot said...

Hi Ky,
Thanks for your advices. I am so glad there is blog in this world and I can refer from times to times and many times the parenting techniques you shared with me.